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Friday, December 11

I just dont understand...

Yo.

So this situation is really bothering me. I mean it's not my situation but I just can’t wrap my mind around the whole thing. SO...I'm going to share a personal story. Maybe too personal for a blog?...but here goes. So I have a guy cousin. This guy cousin who happens to be gay. There is a story behind it all...or at least where it all started. And sadly it starts in our family. When my guy cousin, we'll call him Dre,...so when Dre was younger [about 4 or 5] one of my MUCH older cousins started to molest him. A cousin who also happens to be male...but doesn’t claim to be gay. He molested him for about 3-4 years. Sick...right? Dre decided to keep quiet about this issue until about 3 years ago. And even then he didn’t make it public. His mother overheard him talking on the phone to my sister about someone in our family touching him...asking whether he should say something or not. And from there...things got crazy. It came out that our older cousin was taking him in one of my great-grandmothers backrooms and...Well yea. We all were basically raised in that house...while our parents were in their partying phase. Anywho when my aunt found out, my mother was the first person she called. And it went from there. My mother let the rest of the family know, everyone was outraged. I found out while I was out one night...ruined my whole night and I was definitely ready to find and cut that nasty ass nigga up. Yea...it's that serious. So were my mother, my grandmother, and my sister. [Notice I didn’t say my aunt--his mother!] Someone let him know that he was being looked for...so he went into hiding for a while. My mother put up flyers EVERYONE...our homemade child molester flyers with his picture on it. Later...he had the nerve to show up at a family gathering. When he did all hell broke loose. My granny pulled out her gun and they had to calm her down. She was cussing all types of things at him.[Oh, P.S- My family is hella crazy!] After they calmed her down my mother confronted him. Asking why the fuck he bothered to show up...seeing as to how he wasn’t family and how he was dead to her. And he started popping off at the mouth talking shit sayin he aint do shit and he gone go where he want to. Why he tried that woman...well I have no clue. She came after him with a long metal pipe. She started calling him all types of names and got one good hit with the pipe across his back. He took off running with my momma on his ass. My sister jumped up and so did I ready to help. And everyone else in my family grabbed my mother and told him to leave. My mom was pissed wondering why the hell that let him get away. She had plans...he would definitely not be alive it were up to her. Or me! Smh! I think that’s some dirty nasty ass shit. Done right under my nose to one of my closest cousins. No...We were definitely out for blood. Now let me rewind...that same nasty ass nigga who molested him had molested one of my female cousins around the time he was messing with Dre. She was older [14or15]; she told my mother after it happened twice. They locked the doors in my great grannys house and let all my older men cousin whoop his ass something severe...damn near killing him. And after a while...somehow he had got back good with the family until Dre's story came out. So he did it before...!

 Now the situation itself is sick...but the fact that after all of this Dre's mother can hate him baffles my mind. After the story and all the drama she became a total bitch to him. I mean she did some hardcore shit...she hated, correction...she hates him. With a passion and there is nothing you can tell me to change my mind. She started calling him all types of faggots, gay nasty niggas, and all other types of shit. She started treating him like an outcast...and I just don’t like that shit. Recently his younger sister was complaining to my aunt about how Dre never talks to her and blah blah blah. When they have NEVER had a sister/brother relationship. NEVER! Anywho when they started to discuss it in detail his mother said its hurting his sister that they don’t talk...and she said another reason his sister was probably hurting was the fact that he was gay. She said “Even though it’s not discussed that’s another reason. It's affecting her and me...it’s not just affecting you...What you do affects us too." She said this yelling of course. And when she asked his sister was that the reason that lil wanch had the nerve to shake her head yea. I mean what the fuck does that have to do with them at this point?...I'm pissed that she is treating him like this and that she has SUCH a huge issue with him being gay when SHE was the one who actually grabbed my mother so she wouldn’t hit his molester again. SHE protected him. What the fuck type of shit is that? I mean really she lost all my respect I once had for her. She treats him like it’s his fault.[When I have a child] If my child were to come out and tell me they were gay, I'd be perfectly fine with it. It's just their lifestyle. I would never disown my child for it nor treat them worse. NEVER. AND if my child told me a family member molested them best believe my number one priority would be to find a way to kill that nigga and get away with it.! I just don’t understand where her mind possibly is to be acting this way...and I don’t like it. Anywho until next time...Toodles!

8 comments:

Sylvia said...

DANG!!! That shit is crazy! Believe me though, it happens I think in all families, so dont think your family is crazy...I think it's normal...thats crazy all in itself that the norm is to have families like this but shit like this happened in my fam and most of the people i know well enough to talk about this stuff. Some ppl just refuse to believe the truth when they dont want to be and thats sad for them.

Ro said...

That happens in more families I'm sure....so sad.
He needs help..I wonder if someone did that to him.

her . said...

lol dyzaaaam yur granma went Madea ! haha i love it.

sorry for all the drama and pain its causing you and your family. in my opinion if your cousins mom is acting like that shes another guilty party and needs her ass kicked just as well, no offense. right is right and anybody with a smidge of common sense knows that aint right ! hmph !

my prayers for comfort, relief, and healing to your family.

xxxx said...

your aunt and her daughter is ignorant. unfortunately stories like this happens all the time. my cousin was molested by her uncle and her parents did nothing about it, they actually let her molester go free to live a happy life back in jamaiaca instead of pressing charges. it affected my cousin real bad she is now 26 and just now getting right.your family needs prayer and counseling

Secretia said...

Molestation damages the persons mind, and that damage is often unfixable, even with counseling. Parents have the responsibility to keep close observations for strange behavior. But sometimes the molestor is a parent, then will the other parent please STOP the thing from happening! Call the police.

Secretia

Supastarrr said...

I agree w| sylvia. This situation hits home, for me, dre's mom= everyone else in my fam. I think the best thing you could do is just be there for him b|c that's what he needs the most

JStar said...

This happened to me...What comes around goes around...

khaki said...

pure craziness.